Why is it that about 90% of songs/music is about love, relationships or beautiful women but yet relationships are breaking left, right and center; blogsville is filled with a litany of “HIM” vs “HER” and relationship counseling is a booming business (at least in Europe & America)?
Why is it that the average “Oyibo” lady will tell a guy straight up – “I want you to know that I like you very much. You don’t have to do anything about it now but I hope one day you will feel the same way about me…” Whereas the average Naija lady will deny till kingdom come that she likes a guy (will only spill the gist amongst her very close girlfriends) , play hard to get and get the guy to pursue her as if he’s chasing the holy grail?
Why it is that even today, not only are Nigerians still against inter-tribal marriages, but even amongst people of the same tribe, there is discrimination amongst states. So you will find some Yorubas who will swear that over their dead bodies will their children marry an Ijebu person, and you will find Igbos (for e.g. from Anambra) who will never allow their kids marry from Wawa (Enugu State).
Why does it SEEM as if Nigerians don’t learn from their mistakes? We crash out early from the world cup and the papers and the public are full of the fact that we did so because of lack of planning. The coaches are fired, a probe panel is raised, yet the very next edition we either crash out early again or we don’t even qualify at all; same thing with our aviation industry; same thing with the educational sector.
Why is it that most Nigerians believe in the maxim “spare the rod and spoil the child” so we flog our kids to discipline them, but at the office when we see a highly undisciplined employee we do not support the issue of a query or outright dismissal? Instead we make comments like “Have mercy. How can you sack him, he’s the breadwinner in his family? Me, I won’t be involved in his sack oh. Let them not say I am a witch and I do not want a family to eat oh…” Someone said, - “As Nigerians, our large-heartedness promotes mediocrity.”
Why is it that when an average Oyibo person sees a sickness he does not understand, he goes straight to a doctor, the lab or books to find an explanation whereas the average Nigerian will ascribe it to supernatural forces? Either some people have bewitched them or somebody has done a powerful juju that is blocking their success or the sickness is the result of a supernatural force tormenting them.
Why do we Nigerians place much emphasis on the university degree/certificate, without knowing if the person has the requisite skills?
Why do we look down on polytechnic graduates?
Why do we pay our gatemen/drivers 5,000 Naira a month (yet we know he has a wife and at least 2 kids) when we know they possibly can not live on it, and the minimum wage as specified by government is at least 7500 Naira?
Why is it that when a man sleeps around, he’s a stud but when a lady sleeps around she’s a tramp?
Why is it that the average “Oyibo” lady will tell a guy straight up – “I want you to know that I like you very much. You don’t have to do anything about it now but I hope one day you will feel the same way about me…” Whereas the average Naija lady will deny till kingdom come that she likes a guy (will only spill the gist amongst her very close girlfriends) , play hard to get and get the guy to pursue her as if he’s chasing the holy grail?
Why it is that even today, not only are Nigerians still against inter-tribal marriages, but even amongst people of the same tribe, there is discrimination amongst states. So you will find some Yorubas who will swear that over their dead bodies will their children marry an Ijebu person, and you will find Igbos (for e.g. from Anambra) who will never allow their kids marry from Wawa (Enugu State).
Why does it SEEM as if Nigerians don’t learn from their mistakes? We crash out early from the world cup and the papers and the public are full of the fact that we did so because of lack of planning. The coaches are fired, a probe panel is raised, yet the very next edition we either crash out early again or we don’t even qualify at all; same thing with our aviation industry; same thing with the educational sector.
Why is it that most Nigerians believe in the maxim “spare the rod and spoil the child” so we flog our kids to discipline them, but at the office when we see a highly undisciplined employee we do not support the issue of a query or outright dismissal? Instead we make comments like “Have mercy. How can you sack him, he’s the breadwinner in his family? Me, I won’t be involved in his sack oh. Let them not say I am a witch and I do not want a family to eat oh…” Someone said, - “As Nigerians, our large-heartedness promotes mediocrity.”
Why is it that when an average Oyibo person sees a sickness he does not understand, he goes straight to a doctor, the lab or books to find an explanation whereas the average Nigerian will ascribe it to supernatural forces? Either some people have bewitched them or somebody has done a powerful juju that is blocking their success or the sickness is the result of a supernatural force tormenting them.
Why do we Nigerians place much emphasis on the university degree/certificate, without knowing if the person has the requisite skills?
Why do we look down on polytechnic graduates?
Why do we pay our gatemen/drivers 5,000 Naira a month (yet we know he has a wife and at least 2 kids) when we know they possibly can not live on it, and the minimum wage as specified by government is at least 7500 Naira?
Why is it that when a man sleeps around, he’s a stud but when a lady sleeps around she’s a tramp?
Why do Nigerian girls effect/affect a foreign accent when - (1) They haven’t crossed River Niger before ( 2) Nobody can hear what they’re saying (with this accent). ? Why can’t they just speak plain and simple English?
Why is it that the Nigerian society still expects a lady has to be married at age 28? Anything after that and mumsy is attending night vigil and scheming with friends while popsi is giving his daughters phone nos to all the “good boys” from his villa.
Why is it that the average Nigerian girl of today does not look at a guy’s potential but his current worth - Potential ni, potential ko, na that one I go chop?
Why do Nigerians prefer to go for the wedding reception and not the church/mosque service?
Why do people go late to church but almost never late to work? I thought both were appointments.
I have yet to see someone who picked up a JAMB/UME form and put psychology as a first choice course. It’s usually medicine and then psychology as the second choice. And even when the person gains admission for psychology, he is scheming to change after the second year. Yet there is nothing remotely deeming about psychology. Psychology is just one example. Other courses like Estate Management, Building, Metallurgical & Material Engineering, etc also fall into the same category.
Why? Why? Why?
Weekly Trivia: Last week, I had to explain to a colleague (less than 30 yr old) what a blog is. I also find that even amongst the computer savvy world, because of the changing technology, it’s almost difficult to keep up with the trends.
I’ve decided to put up a weekly quiz (hope I can sustain it sha…) that will help us all keep up to date with the latest buzz words. You can also suggest words/phrases via email or in your comments. You don’t have to put up an answer but if a word is posted that you do not know about, then google it and keep up to date with the buzz word.
The inaugural word is “Dooced”. What does it mean to be dooced?
12 comments:
im feeling you on the Polytechnic schools.... to me the students are the most skilled...yet they're paid less and valued less as well...
I agree with you on all the whys. So spot on!
@diamond hawk: Maybe poly grads should form an association & carry placards...
@desola: you love Nigeria passoniately and are an aspiring entrepreneur. Spot on! (to borrow your words) - can also say the same about me.
thanks for dropping by.
I just love love love this post... you write amazing and the points your raised are just too too true!!!
That is so true...I now see the correlation between our blogs...LOL on potential ko, potential ni....LOVE IT
yeah its so sad how if you're not an engineer or doctor, you're looked down upon...but seriously who will do microbiology and marine fisheries? we need those too...i guess JAMB is the weeding factor.
"dooced"...is that used thesame way as douche bag.
So true,so very true. All the points!
@OWNB & Babe: Why madmosielles, thank you. As my oga would say, We've recognized the problems, what are next steps..?
@Abbey: psssst....I'll give you expo on the "dooced". Google it!
@temmy, OWNB, Babe and all the ladies out there : Would like to get your answers on the "first playing hard to get by Nigerian Ladies.." I think it's a question that still baffles the Nigerian male folk...
These your 'Why' questions wey full ground! I must assume you've joined D'Banj (Why now).
You see how the ladies commenting are stylishly dodging their IGG xteristics? God will give we men grace to accomodate their acts.
Nice post ..agree with all the why though ..
U have a nice day
Really interesting and true...
I love this post..Well said...
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